3 Steps to Follow After a Break-Up

admin — Fri, 18 May 2012 17:58:44 +0000

A break up is certainly nothing you haven’t heard before because it happens almost all the time. It is quite painful especially when you didn’t see it coming or when you were deeply in love but and failed to notice the signs. However, one thing that most people mistake when it comes to break-ups is failing to differentiate between “what they need to hear” and “what they want to hear”. People will often come to your aid to console you and whether they mean it or not, the bottom result is that you still had a break-up. Cutting things short, a break-up is meant to tell you what you need to hear and here they are:

Be smart next time, make the move first

Yes, everyone knows how in love you are at the moment and it won’t take a French guy more than a split second to tell it. However in love you are, you should always consider being the first one to break things up when you notice that things aren’t going well. What’s the benefit of that anyway? Well, if you know about chess then you must know how annoying it is to hear the phrase “check mate” when you were just about to be successful. Making the move first rids you of endless worries that would have otherwise locked you in your room with a bunch of tissue papers to wipe off the tears.

What might I have done?

True, that’s a question that seems odd to learn from. How can you learn from a question? Unfortunately, people always lock themselves from such questions without knowing their worth when it comes to issues concerning love. Trace your steps back to the moment you two met and try to find all the wrong things that you might have done which led to the break-up. Of course it will be rather difficult to find one’s own faults but eventually they will come to light. The importance if this is to learn some of the things that your partner may have not liked in you and such knowledge may be quite handy in your future relationships.

Stop whining! Take a break first

They say that smart people tend to listen more and talk less. You too need to think first before heading back to another relationship again. It might turn out that you missed something crucial that might have made your next relationship more successful. Taking a break in this case doesn’t also mean that you stick to yourself all the time while you’re “thinking”. In fact this is the time to really cheer up because you still have one gift that was given to you at birth and that is life.

Bear in mind that a break-up isn’t the end of everything. It’s simply taking another course on your journey and you really don’t know what lies ahead too. Whether good or bad, you still have the ultimate gift of life.

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